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goodbyes and nostalgia
Fun fact, I named this “Bedside” because back in the day, I used to write from my bedside but I don’t write from my bed that often anymore (I even found an old “Notes from my Bed” series that I’d started to write). I always prefer to write from a table and chair. It’s also why I have a table in all the rooms in my house, including my bedroom. It’s my favourite piece of home furniture and always the first thing I buy. A lot can happen from a table - creation and destruction. It’s why I started “Table Letters”, a series some years back to preserve the moments of creation I go through. Anyway, today’s Bedside is actually being written from my bed. It’s probably the second or third Bedside ever to be written from a bed, so hang this Pillow in the Louvre! Writing has always been therapeutic for me which probably explains why I was so happy many years ago when I started getting paid for writing. Perhaps I should have pursued a full-time career in writing and chased the dream.
When Celine Dion said “goodbye” was the saddest word she’d ever hear, half of the world danced to it without thinking about the motions she went through as she wrote the song. I read it was a song about her mother. I also loved that the song was part of an album she titled “A New Day Has Come”, implying that goodbyes come with a bright and shining new day? Or perhaps a long period of cloud and gloom? Who knows. Well, ten years later, Adele gave us yet another ballad that provided more insights into the world of goodbyes. Sometimes it lasts, sometimes it hurts instead, she sang from her lungs. This yo-yo pendulum swing is quite interesting in that it does not swing between two extremes; if it doesn’t last then it should be short, if it doesn’t hurt, it should ease, but apparently, it’s not as linear as we think. Adele implies that the opposite of something not lasting is not that it’s short, time is negligible to the hurt that comes with not lasting. Thus, the opposite of pain is not joy, but relief. The opposite of “lasting” is “forget” because when it doesn’t last, you forget. Don’t forget me, I beg, she pleads. Very true because it can go on for ten years and still not feel like it or for three years and feel like the whole world. Linear time is inconsequential.
There was some news about Celine Dion going through an ailment that has no cure. It must be so devastating for her family. A lot of the reason why we go through the hoops in life is rarely for ourselves but usually for loved ones, spouses, children, parents, siblings, friends, community and rarely for ourselves so it must feel very devastating when you can’t share the seeming joys with them. There’s something very banal about not being able to share life’s good moments with people you truly trust and love. And there are so many people roaming about that fall into this category.
It feels like the world of goodbyes offers a lot of gems that can teach us how to do life. Another person who gave us an insight into goodbyes was Michael Rosenberg when he said “dreams come slow but they go so fast”. Is he also trying to imply that goodbyes go with vanished dreams? Is goodbye something you say when your dreams are unrealised or is it something you say when you don’t see a new day? Remember Adele also said “…your dreams came through” after her goodbyes.
You can’t break my spirit, it’s my dreams you take, says James Blunt on yet another goodbye odyssey. James reckons that goodbyes make one hollow bringing some kind of emptiness never felt before, he’s probably right but I wouldn’t know that. The reason why his tale of goodbye is quite interesting is that he insinuates that something being over does not mean it’s stopped. He says they may be over but it won’t stop there. Is he trying to imply that there are truly no goodbyes as we all leave lasting strains? Perhaps why he calls himself a dreamer because, like Rosenberg above, it feels like goodbyes come when reality does not match our dreams and perhaps people who do not experience goodbyes are those that do not dream. But how can you not dream?
Back in the day, James Blunt used to have the funniest Twitter page with his very funny and savage replies. (Just checked his Twitter and he’s still funny). What a combination, a gifted singer and songwriter with an equally touché last name to match. Did you actually know that Blunt was not his original last name? It’s Blount and he changed it. I looked him up and saw he has a new album coming out soon. He also served in the military, actually deployed on the frontlines of the Kosovo War as part of NATO. What a guy!
These words sound like a symphony for all of mankind’s fears, that one day we will all be - and die - alone. Literally, the fear is the reason why people do most of the things they do in life - get a job, get married, have kids, travel, spend money, etc. Well, the only way to overcome this is to keep dreaming, embrace your fears, the ones that tell you to stop dreaming because of the goodbyes that potentially come with dreams. But how can you not dream? Keep your head high and dream on. Like Adele pleads, don’t forget meeeee, I beg.
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